Riding The Waves

Welcome! Nope, that’s not really the right word…

Hi, my name is Emily! Yeah that’s more fitting.

You are about to read about some very vulnerable events in my life, and if that’s scary or not what you’re looking for, you will not hurt my feelings if you don’t continue reading, there’s also no way for me to tell anyway!

I created this blog to be an outlet for myself, but also to help anyone who has gone through a similar situation realize you are NOT alone, you are NOT crazy, your feelings are extremely valid and probably more common than you think, and your baby matters and deserves to be talked about.

Before I dive deep into my vulnerability, I want to say I am SO sorry if you are here for a reason that is resonating with my situation on a personal level. Whether that means you share a similar story with me, or love someone who has been down a dark trail like this before. I want to extend my sincerest condolences to you and/or your loved one. This is not an easy topic to discuss, but it’s not discussed enough and that’s my main reason for being here.

DISCLAIMER: I am going to say some very vulnerable and nitty-gritty things, there will be NO sugar-coating anything. I may use some humor, because I have realized sometimes laughing is the best medicine and sometimes it’s the only answer I have. My intention is to share real experiences that resonate with those who might be struggling. If my blog is not your style, that’s okay, and I sincerely hope you find what you are looking for in your healing journey to help you gain your strength back. It’s important to acknowledge that healing is a deeply personal process, often filled with ups and downs – in my blog, I will refer to these ups and downs as waves that ebb and flow. But I have found that brutal honesty with this traumatic event has been my saving Grace. In revealing the truths that many shy away from; my hope is that it helps others as well, sparking conversations and understanding that we are not alone in our struggles.

There are places to comment under each of my blog posts and I encourage anyone to participate in these comments, especially if you resonate with pregnancy loss on a personal level. However – just like your mother used to say, “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”, by that statement, I simply just mean don’t be cruel to others or myself for sharing our stories. I want to encourage pregnancy loss to be talked about more, because it’s not. It’s a very lonely journey to be on because there are so little resources surrounding it and not many people that go through it typically, outwardly, share their experience. And my hope is that this platform is a safe place for anyone who wishes to participate or simply be able to just view that you are not alone going through whatever you are going through. Like I said earlier in this post, everyone’s loss story is different, but most will have some similarities. And once you see those similarities, it will lift such an immense weight off your shoulders knowing that it’s OK to feel how you feel.

To quickly give you a brief background of who I am – I am 30 years old, married to my husband, Nick, and we have 2 dogs (a Lab and a Dachshund). We live in North Carolina, but grew up in Maine. I have my nursing license, however, I am almost finished with my medical coding certificate so I can transition into working in that field instead! My hobbies include reading, hiking, backpacking/camping, and playing card/board games. And I have a deep love for dessert and college basketball- go Heels!

I hope to learn more about your stories, but in the meantime- this is mine…